I’m looking for someone I can trust to help me learn how to get into bdsm with my soon to be wife. Any help would be appreciated.
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welcome! I started like you: curious, no clue where to begin. A friend tipped me off to reddit thread; I lurked, then hit a local “munch” (just coffee, jeans, talk). From there my partner and I tried babysteps: blindfold, soft cuffs, goofy safeword (“pineapple”), lots of post scene chats about what worked. Workshops and play parties followed once we felt comfy. try also youtube videos!
Big takeaways: talk first, play small, debrief often, and don’t skip the newbie events. they turn “kinky strangers” into friendly mentors fast.
Have fun and stay safe!